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Squidward (SpongeBob SquarePants)

“Act as if what you do makes a difference.  It does.”  -William James

• When you show up for the people in your life, even though you’re having a hard day, you make a difference.
• When you share what you’re dealing with, even though it makes you feel vulnerable, and help other people through your honesty, you make a difference.
• When you practice what you preach, you make a difference.
• When you honor your needs to create a sense of inner calm and well-being that permeates your interactions with others, you  make a difference.
• When you cut yourself some slack so you can use your energy to love, create, and inspire, you make a difference.
• When you give people the benefit of the doubt, you make a difference.
• When you listen fully, instead of waiting to talk, you make a difference.
• When you focus more on being kind than being right, you make a difference.
• When you find beauty in the world around you and help other people see it, you make a difference.
• When you realize that your everyday actions are your greatest legacy, you make a difference.

by Lori Deschene

“Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day.”  ~Unknown

Contrary to popular belief, even positive people get in bad moods.

Maybe you didn’t get enough sleep last night. Or you feel overworked and overwhelmed. Or perhaps something happened, and you keep dwelling on it. Going over and over in your head how you froze up in a meeting, or spoke too aggressively to someone you love.

Whatever the case may be, you feel something you don’t want to, and you’re not sure how to change it. You just know you need to do something before acting on that feeling.

The reality is you don’t have to act on everything you feel. Still, emotional responses happen so quickly that it becomes challenging to put space between feeling and doing.

It may seem like the answer is to stop responding to life emotionally, but that’s just not realistic. Paul Ekman, one of the foremost researchers on emotion, suggests it’s near impossible to bypass an emotional response because of the way our brains are set up.

Perhaps the best goal is to identify negative feelings quickly and improve your state of mind instead of responding to feelings with more feelings. Odds are if you choose the latter, you’ll do something you’ll regret later.

I’ve come up with 10 ways to overcome a negative state of mind:

1. Get to the root.

If you’ve ever snapped at someone who didn’t say or do anything to offend you, you’re familiar with this common dilemma: you feel something but you’re not entirely sure why. So you start looking for explanations. The kids are too loud. Or the TV’s too small. Or the car’s too dirty.

Maybe you’re afraid of acknowledging someone hurt you because you prefer to avoid confrontation. Or maybe you’re disappointed in yourself but admitting it is too painful. Whatever the case, it’s time to get honest. Lashing out won’t address the problems that are creating your feelings.

2. Be real.

There’s no point in pretending you’re full of sunshine when internally you feel like crying or screaming. You’re entitled to feel the full range of emotions and express what’s on your mind when you need to. Don’t worry about bringing other people down; you’ll only do that if you dwell in negativity.

If someone asks what’s wrong, be honest: “I’ve had a rough day, I don’t feel so great, but I’m sure I’ll feel better when I…”

3. Complete the “I’ll feel better when I …” sentence.

Everyone has something that’s guaranteed to put a smile on their face. Playing with your dog. Watching re-runs of Friends. Jump roping to bad 80s music. It’s helpful to have this Ace in your pocket to pull out when you need a smile. (If you’re on Facebook, read more ideas to make you smile here.)

I know yoga always enhances my mood. I also know when I feel bad I’m less motivated to go yoga. It helps to remind myself it will be worth it in the end if I push through my discomfort because yoga always helps, at least a little.

4. Take responsibility.

Sometimes when you’re down it might feel like you have to stay there. But the truth is we can influence how we feel by choosing what we do. Sitting around sulking causes prolonged sadness. Doing something proactive will help you start to feel better.

When you realize you’re the only thing standing between you and a smile, you get motivated to take action. That’s the thing about feelings: you can’t sit around waiting for them to change. You have to do something to change them.

5. Think it out.

The best way to change how you feel is to change how you think about  what’s bothering you. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, identify what you learned and what you can do with that knowledge to make your next moments better.

Instead of dwelling on everything that’s out of your hands, focus on things you can actually control. How honest you are about your feelings. Whether you take responsibility or blame other people. Whether you cling to pain or let go. You can’t avoid feelings, but you don’t have to exacerbate them with negative thoughts.

6. Change the story in your head.

Sometimes when you’re in a bad mood, it’s tempting to cling to a story that justifies it–and then retell it over and over like a picture book you’ve heard a million times.And then he said this…And then I did this…And then I messed up…

Visualize yourself closing a book and taking a new one off the shelf. Then start telling yourself a different story. One where you’re not a victim. One where you’re not powerless. One where you’re accepting what happened, and moving on so you don’t lose anymore time to that other book.

7. Want to understand.

Even if something happened to create your bad mood, you’re responsible for maintaining it–and it’s easy to do that if you refuse to see the other side of situations. If you want to believe your best friend meant to hurt you. Or the world is against you. Or your boss didn’t promote you because she’s out to get you.

Instead of fueling your anger for your friend, feel compassion for the pain she must be in–she’d never hurt you on purpose. Instead of thinking the world is against you, put your day in perspective. Everyone has bad days. Instead of imaging your boss is out to get you, realize she had a tough choice to make, and you’ll have more opportunities to advance down the line.

8. Uplift yourself.

Diffuse your negative feelings by generating positive ones. Watch something funny and silly on YouTube. Or watch something inspirational that reminds you people are good–life is good. I recommend Validation. Every time I see it I feel good about myself and want to pay that forward.

9. Use the silly voice technique.

According to Russ Harris, author of The Happiness Trap, swapping the voice in your head with a cartoon voice will help take back power from the troubling thought. (As mentioned in 40 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Pain.)

When you start thinking about the interview that went downhill, do it as Bugs Bunny. When you rehash the fight you had with your boyfriend, do it as one of those high-pitched mice from Cinderalla. Sound ridiculous? It is. That’s the point.

10. Repeat.

You’ve tried everything but your mind is still being stubborn. Now it’s a battle of wills: the part of you that wants to let go against the part of you that doesn’t.

Repeat this to yourself: “I still feel bad. I accept it. I know I won’t always feel bad, and it will change as soon as I’m ready.” Simply affirming that you won’t always feel bad–that you’re not destined to feel angry, sad, or frustrated forever–and that you are in control of your feelings might motivate you to let them go.

KISS (Never Let Me Go)  

YUMI ft THYRO

THYRO:
Baby its late, can you take me home?
Bring me somewhere we can be alone
Coz’, you know, I’m a little tipsy
Light me up and, baby, kiss me
Come and baby do it quickly
I don’t wanna talk so keep my mouth
Busy, Little missy
I feel like burning
You’re who I’m yearning
I’m ready for friction
Sparks Fly, Up high
Baby make me feel like I never felt before

CHORUS:
Hold me close
By your side
Baby Never Let Me Go
Through the night
As I open my eyes
Baby, Kiss me from my nose
Down to my…

YUMI:
Baby, come here and I’ll make you see
Take you to a place where we can be free
Boy, you put me on fire
Come on, baby, take me higher
And fulfill my desire
Don’t talk (shhh) just give it a try
And blow my mind
Don’t keep me waiting
I know you want it
Now let’s get it started
Lead me
Feel me
Baby, let me hear it that you wanted more

REPEAT CHORUS

BRIDGE
Ooh baby, Ooh baby, Ooh Baby
Where’d you learn to work that way?
(Oooh, Ooh) I said you, you, you (Uh)
You are driving me insane
(To heaven)
Would you come with me babe?

Repeat Chorus

If someone keeps lying to you, there’s a good chance that they need to go.

off to Madison to eat Shawarma. yum yum yum!

tambaylang16:

1. Pretend na sobra hirap sa dami ng workload, na tipong mukhang mag-oovertime ka pero on the dot naman sa uwian.

2. Simangot mode para hindi lapitan ni bossing. Kunwari bawal istorbohin na kung pwede lang ipost sa cube “do not disturb”. Yun pala do not disturb kc busy sa kung ano anong…

tambaylang16:

 
 

Press play
He’s Waiting For The Phone To Ring
But Everyday It’s The Same Thing
No Ring At All
Turn It Up
He Hears Your Voice When He Sleeps At Night
Baby That Ain’t Even Right
Cause Right Now He’s Wishing That He Could
Press Rewind
To See You One More Time
But If He Could Press Rewind
He’d Hear What He Said And Changes The Lines
Then Fast Forward
To What Could Have Been If He Didn’t Offend You By Playing With Your Heart
Cause The Music Don’t Sound As Good When You’re Apart

You Were His Favorite Song
But The Playlist Ain’t The Same Since You’ve Been Gone
And He Don’t Even Care To Listen Now , No
You Ran Away Cause He Did You Wrong
But All He Wants Is One More Chance To Sing Along
To His Favorite Song
To His Favorite Song

Press Play
He Was Only Being A Man
Staying Out Forever With His Homeboys
Knowing That He Should Be Home
Turn It Up
Now The Arguing Is Getting Loud
So He Turned Around And Walked Out
Wishing He Could Take It All Back Now
Just Press Rewind
To See You One More Time
Girl If He Could Press Rewind
He’d Hear What He Said And Changes The Lines
Then Fast Forward
To What Could Have Been If He Didn’t Offend You By Playing With Your Heart
Cause The Music Don’t Sound As Good When You’re Apart

You Were His Favorite Song
But The Playlist Ain’t The Same Since You’ve Been Gone
And He Don’t Even Care To Listen Now , No
You Ran Away Cause He Did You Wrong
But All He Wants Is One More Chance To Sing Along
To His Favorite Song
To His Favorite Song

Listen Baby
You’re His Favorite Song
You’re His Favorite Song , Hey
Just Listen Baby
He’s Hurt Cause You’re Not Around
And He Can’t Hear The Sound
Girl, Whatever It Was He Did To Make You Cry
You Better Ask Yourself Was It Worth Losing What You Had
He Should Call Him Up
And Try To Work It Out
Cause His Biggest Fear Is
No Longer Hearing
His Favorite Song..

blindthoughts:

By: taylorsumner

My dear sisters